Why is it wrong to wish karma on people who purposely treat you terribly?

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Like if someone tells you they need money to help someone currently dying of cancer, you give out money to them thinking you are helping them when in reality they were manipulating your kindness so they could go out smoking, why is it wrong for you to wish they suffer from cancer afterwards?

It may be wrong doing it as "revenge" but doing selfish things such as faking being homeless or having cancer often results in people who are actually suffering from these things not getting the help they need because selfish people such as you are ruining their reputation by crying wolf.
 
For one thing, from most people's standpoints, "wishing karma" on someone is both useless and overall not that bad of a thing to do. Just because you want someone to die doesn't mean they will. I mean, sure, most people get mad at you if you tell them you'd like for them to be impaled with a large knife, but hey, just don't tell them at all, yeah?

Also, there's a difference between wishing harm on someone (eg. "dang, I wish he'd fall out of that tree right now") and actually wanting to harm someone YOURSELF (eg. "dang, I sure would like to shove that guy off this skyscraper right now"). Big difference.

However, from a Christian standpoint, wishing harm on someone or wanting to harm someone is essentially the same as having done it yourself, and basically, hard feelings against each other should be worked out through other means than killing someone you don't agree with. Pretty simple stuff.

And as for the faking being homeless thing, there are two steps to resolve such issues.

1. DON'T give random people on the street money, no matter how homeless they look. If you're feeling extra generous today, consider donating to charity.
2. The fake homeless people will then not get any money and be forced to get jobs and start living independently! Employment saves the day, yay!
 
I mean every time my birthday comes near, I also celebrate the anniversary of Rush Limbaugh's death.
 
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It's generally not healthy to hold resentment against people. I do it myself, but I'm doing my best to move on from it. A friend of mine also resented people after they started gaslighting him or spread false rumors about him after they had a falling out with one another. My friend had to learn to let go, and it wasn't easy. A saying that helped him to let go is "Live well, it's the best revenge". Since my friend can either choose to live in resentment and the painful memories get the better of him, or he can try to be the best person he can be, despite what people have done to him.
 
ClawgripFan9001 said:
It's generally not healthy to hold resentment against people. I do it myself, but I'm doing my best to move on from it. A friend of mine also resented people after they started gaslighting him or spread false rumors about him after they had a falling out with one another. My friend had to learn to let go, and it wasn't easy. A saying that helped him to let go is "Live well, it's the best revenge". Since my friend can either choose to live in resentment and the painful memories get the better of him, or he can try to be the best person he can be, despite what people have done to him.
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You shouldn't dwell on people forever but forgiving and forgetting is more often an open invitation for them to stab you in the back again.
 
THIEF said:
You shouldn't dwell on people forever but forgiving and forgetting is more often an open invitation for them to stab you in the back again.
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That's awful advice. Forgiving resolves tensions between the both of you and it makes it much more comfortable to talk to them. Once you forgive, you don't have to bring them back into your relationship again, you don't have to talk with them or even hang out with them, but it does make it far easier to speak to them again if you need to. Most people aren't bad people, they can have their own personal problems that make them unpalatable to you though, but you should communicate that you don't really like their behavior or attitude and being acquaintances is the most you'll get from the relationship.

Source (and long story short): been in a very messy relationship with a co-worker where it turns out that I don't like his attitude or negative vibes despite initial impressions of being kind and helpful, getting rid of him from my contacts improved my overall mood. Eventually led to him apologizing which eased up tensions but that won't mean I'll unblock him.
 
Ray Trace said:
That's awful advice. Forgiving resolves tensions between the both of you and it makes it much more comfortable to talk to them. Once you forgive, you don't have to bring them back into your relationship again, you don't have to talk with them or even hang out with them, but it does make it far easier to speak to them again if you need to. Most people aren't bad people, they can have their own personal problems that make them unpalatable to you though, but you should communicate that you don't really like their behavior or attitude and being acquaintances is the most you'll get from the relationship.

Source (and long story short): been in a very messy relationship with a co-worker where it turns out that I don't like his attitude or negative vibes despite initial impressions of being kind and helpful, getting rid of him from my contacts improved my overall mood. Eventually led to him apologizing which eased up tensions but that won't mean I'll unblock him.
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Wouldn't they not care about you whatsoever because they are selfish?
 
No. It's complicated and I'm not gon a give away the nitty gritty details of my social life because that's irrelevant.
 
Ray Trace said:
That's awful advice. Forgiving resolves tensions between the both of you and it makes it much more comfortable to talk to them. Once you forgive, you don't have to bring them back into your relationship again, you don't have to talk with them or even hang out with them, but it does make it far easier to speak to them again if you need to.
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It can go either way. If someone screwed up but it wasn't irredeemable and it's clear they legitimately want to make amends, then that's the case. But there are crimes so low that it's perfectly normal not to forgive people for.
 
Revenge in any form is a hollow way to get satisfaction, I know people who got payback for what some did to them and still feel miserable, a overwhelming desire to make sure someone you hate suffers twists one sense of justice into an overbearing sense of being cruel and vindictive for short lived joy and by the time you realize it wasn't worth it you become far more hated than someone who has wronged you
People are trying to stop you from running your own life here, listen to them
 
Pink Cat said:
Revenge in any form is a hollow way to get satisfaction, I know people who got payback for what some did to them and still feel miserable, a overwhelming desire to make sure someone you hate suffers twists one sense of justice into an overbearing sense of being cruel and vindictive for short lived joy and by the time you realize it wasn't worth it you become far more hated than someone who has wronged you
People are trying to stop you from running your own life here, listen to them
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I agree, you can not want to take action towards someone and still not forgive them though
 
TheBlueCatMenace said:
You should never wish for someone else's discomfort, no matter who they are.
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Idk you should never wish for someone to be traumatized, but if someone intentionally acts in bad faith they should be called out for it, and sometimes given a reasonable punishment in a way that makes them feel discomfort for what they did, such as jail time. Nothing is wrong with thinking someone should feel discomfort for their actions in that way.
 
I wish all horrible people around the world to suffer fates worse than death actually
 
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A while ago we had a user proudly tell us that they are sometimes too lazy to go to the toilet, and that they voluntarily piss their pants so they can stay at the PC.

You can do what you want; your thoughts are your own and all that.
But much like the pants-pissing tale of yore, not everything that comes to your head also needs to be put into a thread for the world to see.

Sometimes it's better to log off and go do something else.
 
G Major Steven Stone said:
It can go either way. If someone screwed up but it wasn't irredeemable and it's clear they legitimately want to make amends, then that's the case. But there are crimes so low that it's perfectly normal not to forgive people for.
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I'm not talking about outliers. You know them when you encounter them. Most people don't irredeemably fuck up to the point where you can't forgive them. In general, you should apologize if you made a mistake because it's an effective mediation tool.
 
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